{"id":77,"date":"2007-06-02T23:32:20","date_gmt":"2007-06-02T21:32:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psikologjia.com\/?p=77"},"modified":"2007-06-02T23:32:20","modified_gmt":"2007-06-02T21:32:20","slug":"sjellja-e-femise-tuaj","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psikologjia.com\/wordpress2\/psikologjia-e-zhvillimit\/sjellja-e-femise-tuaj\/","title":{"rendered":"Sjellja e f\u00ebmis\u00eb tuaj"},"content":{"rendered":"<p align=\"justify\">P&euml;rgjegj&euml;sia e prind&euml;rve &euml;sht&euml; q&euml; ta m&euml;sojn&euml; f&euml;mij&euml;n t&euml; sillet t&euml; mir&euml;. F&euml;mij&euml;t m&euml; mir&euml; m&euml;sojn&euml; n&euml;se i tregoni shembull personal.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p class=\"tekstovi\" align=\"justify\">Sjellje e caktuar nuk &euml;sht&euml; e pranueshme n&euml;n asnj&euml;far&euml; kushtesh. Nuk duhet t&euml; lejohet zgjedhje n&euml;se b&euml;het fjal&euml; p&euml;r &ccedil;far&euml;do gj&euml;je e cila e k&euml;rc&euml;non sh&euml;ndetin\/sigurin&euml; e f&euml;mis&euml; ose ardhm&euml;rin&euml; e tij. P&euml;r shembull f&euml;mija i s&euml;mur&euml; duhet t&euml; mar&euml;r bar&euml;ra. F&euml;mija i vog&euml;l nuk guxon t&euml; luaj&euml; n&euml; rrug&euml;, ose tinejxheri nuk guxon t&euml; vozitet me vozit&euml;s t&euml; dehur. F&euml;mija nuk duhet t&euml; ik&euml; nga shkolla. Shkolla e p&euml;rgatit q&euml; t&euml; mund t&euml; punoj&euml; dhe fitoj&euml; p&euml;r jet&euml;n, gjegj&euml;sisht b&euml;het fjal&euml; p&euml;r ardhm&euml;rin&euml; e tij. <\/p>\n<p class=\"tekstovi\" align=\"justify\">P&euml;r sjellje t&euml; caktuar mund t&euml; bisedohet, p&euml;r shembull a do t&#39;i lyej&euml; flok&euml;t ose a do ta rregulloj&euml; krevatin etj.<\/p>\n<h5 class=\"tekstovi\" align=\"justify\">&Ccedil;far&euml; duhet t&euml; prisni? <\/h5>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">F&euml;mij&euml;t dallohen n&euml; sjellje n&euml; var&euml;si nga mosha e tyre dhe nga personaliteti. B&euml;huni i drejt&euml; dhe real n&euml; raport t&euml; asaj se &ccedil;far&euml; prisni nga ata. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Thuajini f&euml;mij&euml;s &ccedil;far&euml; prisni prej tij. Instrukcionet duhet t&euml; jen&euml; t&euml; qarta dhe nuk duhet t&euml; hiqni dor&euml; nga ato. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Mos k&euml;rkoni nga f&euml;mija juaj t&euml; b&euml;j&euml; di&ccedil;ka, k&euml;shtu q&euml; do ti lini rast t&euml; thot&euml; jo. N&euml; vend q&euml; t&euml; pyesni ,,a je i p&euml;rgatitur p&euml;r n&euml; krevat?&rdquo; thoni &ldquo;Koha &euml;sht&euml; q&euml; t&euml; p&euml;rgatitesh p&euml;r n&euml; krevat&rdquo;. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">M&euml; par&euml; ia b&euml;ni me dije p&euml;r at&euml; q&euml; prisni prej tij, p&euml;r shembull ,,n&euml; 5 minutat e ardhshme, &euml;sht&euml; koha q&euml; t&#39;i mbledh&euml;sh lod&euml;rat&rdquo;. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">B&euml;ni nj&euml; list&euml; t&euml; shkurt&euml;r t&euml; rregullave. Ndihmoni f&euml;mij&euml;s suaj t&#39;i kuptoj&euml; rregullat dhe v&euml;rtetoni qart&euml; &ccedil;far&euml; do t&euml; ndodh&euml; po qe se i thyen ato. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Stimuloni pavar&euml;si. Lejoni q&euml; pun&euml;t rutinore f&euml;mija t&#39;i b&euml;j&euml; vet&euml;. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Hartoni plan ditor, dhe p&euml; r mbahuni atij . N&euml; t&euml;, le t&euml; j&euml; jet&euml; e p&euml;rfshir&euml; shkolla, t&euml; luajturit, detyrat sht&euml;piake, TV, ushqimet, pastrimi dhe t&euml; fjeturit. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Adoleshcenca &euml;sht&euml; periudh&euml; e ve&ccedil;ant&euml;. Adoleshcent&euml;t duhet t&euml; trajtohen n&euml; m&euml;nyra t&euml; ndryshme nga f&euml;mij&euml;t e vegj&euml;l. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<h5 class=\"tekstovi\">Si t&euml; veproni n&euml;se f&euml;mija nuk sillet mir&euml;?<\/h5>\n<p align=\"justify\">Mundohuni ti sqaroni f&euml;mij&euml;s se si duhet t&euml; sillet. P&euml;rdorimi i d&euml;nimit fizik si&ccedil; &euml;sht&euml; t&euml; rrahurit &euml;sht&euml; m&euml; pak efikase. Ajo mund ta ndaloj&euml; sjelljen e keqe, por nuk do ta m&euml;soj&euml; f&euml;mij&euml;n t&euml; sillet mir&euml;. Mundohuni n&euml; m&euml;nyr&euml; tjet&euml;r ta disciplinoni f&euml;min&euml;.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em>Injoroni sjellje t&euml; keqe. <\/em><span class=\"tekstovi\">F&euml;mit&euml; duan ta t&euml;rheqin kujdesin e prind&euml;rve t&euml; tyre. Bile edhe kujdesi negativ mund t&euml; veproj&euml; n&euml; m&euml;nyr&euml; stimulative. N&euml; vend q&euml; ti p&euml;rgjigjeni, mundohuni ta injoroni sjelljen e keqe. Kushtoni r&euml;nd&euml;si at&euml;her&euml; kur t&euml; filloj&euml; t&euml; sillet mir&euml;. Keni kujdes injorimi nuk &euml;sht&euml; i lejuar n&euml;se f&euml;mija sillet n&euml; m&euml;nyr&euml; t&euml; rrezikshme. Sjellja e till&euml; duhet t&euml; nd&euml;rpritet menj&euml;her&euml;.<\/span> <\/li>\n<li><em>P&euml;rdorni d&euml;nimin me ,,p&euml;rjashtim&rdquo; (time-out)<\/em><span class=\"tekstovi\">. Thuajini f&euml;mij&euml;s m&euml; p&euml;rpara, cila sjellje do t&euml; d&euml;nohet me p&euml;rjashtim (time-out). Time-out vepron mir&euml; pas sulmeve t&euml; hidh&euml;rimit, kur f&euml;mija krejt&euml;sisht e humb kontrollin ose n&euml;se f&euml;mija sillet n&euml; m&euml;nyr&euml; agresive ose t&euml; rrezikshme. B indeni se do ta d&euml;noni me,,p&euml;rjashtim&rdquo;n&euml;se nuk sillet mir&euml;. Mos u t&euml;rboni . N&euml;se parabindja nuk vepron, d&euml;nojeni me time-out. Zgjidhni vend i cili &euml;sht&euml; i m&euml;rzitsh&euml;m, por mos t&euml; veproj&euml; n&euml; m&euml;nyr&euml; friguese. P&euml;r shembull, n&euml; karrike me fytyr&euml; t&euml; kthyer kah muri. &Ccedil;doher&euml; rrini n&euml; af&euml;rsi q&euml; ta shikoni por mos i flisni. P&euml;rdorni or&euml; q&euml; t&euml; rrij&euml; sakt&euml;sisht sa keni parapar&euml;. Koha duhet t&euml; jet&euml; e shkurt&euml; ( rreth nj&euml; minut&euml; p&euml;r secilin vit t&euml; mosh&euml;s).N&euml;se f&euml;mija e l&euml;shon vendin, kthejeni prapa dhe eventualisht filloni me num&euml;rimin e koh&euml;s, p&euml;rs&euml;ri. Kur t&euml; mbaroj&euml; d&euml;nimi, mos i flitni p&euml;r sjelljen e keqe. M&euml; mir&euml; &euml;sht&euml; q&euml; t&#39;i sqaroni se &ccedil;far&euml; k&euml;rkoni nga ai ose l&euml;vd&euml;rojeni\/shp&euml;rblejeni rradh&euml;n tjet&euml;r kur t&euml; sillet mir&euml;.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h5>Si t&euml; veproni kur sillet mir&euml;?<\/h5>\n<p><span class=\"tekstovi\"><\/p>\n<p align=\"justify\">Shp&euml;rblejeni p&euml;r sjelljen e mir&euml; me l&euml;vdata, shp&euml;rblime ose p&euml;rkujdesje. Shp&euml;rblimi nuk duhet t&euml; blihet me t&euml; holla. Mund t&euml; jet&euml; edhe nj&euml; p&euml;rqafim i thjesht&euml; ose t&#39;i shtohet numri i p&euml;rallave kur e vini n&euml; gjum&euml;, ose t&#39;i p&euml;rgatitni di&ccedil;ka speciale p&euml;r t&euml; ngr&euml;n&euml;.&Euml;sht&euml; mir&euml; ta lini f&euml;min&euml; q&euml; vet&euml; ta zgjedhi dhurat&euml;n. Mos i premtoni di&ccedil;ka t&euml; cil&euml;n nuk mund t&#39;ia dhuroni. Potenconi n&euml;se b&euml;n di&ccedil;ka t&euml; mir&euml;.<\/p>\n<h5 align=\"justify\">Si ta p&euml;rmir&euml;soni sjelljen e f&euml;mis&euml; tuaj? <\/h5>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Mundohuni q&euml; at&euml; q&euml; doni ta korrigjoni ta arrini pa p&euml;rdorur forc&euml; . Le t&euml; duket si loj&euml;, e jo si obligim . P&euml;r shembull n&euml;se duhet t&euml; shkoj&euml; n&euml; krevat, p&euml;rdorni or&euml;n dhe thuajini t&euml; fshihet n&euml;n kuvert&euml; para kalimit t&euml; koh&euml;s. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">M&euml;sojeni n&euml; vet&euml;kontrollim. Lejoni q&euml; t&euml; zgjedhi mes obligimeve. P&euml;r shembull t&euml; zgjedh&euml; cilin lib&euml;r ta lexoj&euml; para se t&euml; flej&euml;. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Mos u mundoni q&euml; t&euml; korrigjoni &ccedil;do gj&euml; p&euml;rnj&euml;her&euml;. Zgjidhni nj&euml; ose dy pun&euml; n&euml; t&euml; cilat duhet t&euml; punoni. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Jepni f&euml;mij&euml;s koh&euml; q&euml; t&euml; m&euml;soj&euml;. Sjellja ndryshon ngadal&euml;. P&euml;r shembull, luteni q&euml; t&euml; luaj&euml; qet&euml;, 10 minuta. Jepni l&euml;vdata p&euml;r t&euml;. Pas disa dit&euml;ve, rriteni k&euml;t&euml; koh&euml; n&euml; 15 minuta. L&euml;vd&euml;rojeni vet&euml;m n&euml;se e ka realizuar k&euml;rkes&euml;n. Vazhdoni m&euml; tutje. <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Mund t&euml; formoni s i stem t&euml; shp&euml;rblimit, me pikat t&euml; cilat duhet t&#39;i p&euml;rfitoj&euml; n&euml;se sillet mir&euml;. Shfryt&euml;zoni ditar, ku sakt&euml;sisht do t&euml; sh&euml;noni se &ccedil;&#39;ka ndodhur. N&euml;se sillet mir&euml; &ndash; jepni pik&#038;eum<br \/>\nl;, n&euml;se fiton 10 pika- fiton shp&euml;rblim t&euml; vog&euml;l, e cila p&euml;r t&euml; nuk &euml;sht&euml; aq e r&euml;nd&euml;sishme. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<h5 class=\"tekstovi\" align=\"justify\">Ku mund t&euml; k&euml;shilloheni m&euml; shum&euml;? <\/h5>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Pediatri&nbsp; <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Mjeku familjar <\/li>\n<li class=\"tekstovi\">Psikologu<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<p class=\"tekstovi\">&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"tekstovi\">&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"tekstovi\">______________<\/p>\n<p class=\"tekstovi\"><em>marr&euml; nga sh&euml;ndetif&euml;mj&euml;ror.org.mk<\/em><\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>P&euml;rgjegj&euml;sia e prind&euml;rve &euml;sht&euml; q&euml; ta m&euml;sojn&euml; f&euml;mij&euml;n t&euml; sillet t&euml; mir&euml;. 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